Part 1: How does your sun touch your moon? They speak about your relationships.

Many of you understand the full nature of this Venus Retrograde. It is interesting in the last weeks how many men and women have surfaced with relationship issues about those in their past. "Four years later, I am dreaming of him. Will he contact me?".

Venus retrogrades are just made for processing past relationships. Also sometimes in present relationships, there will be disclosure, sometimes inadvertent to one person's intent or motivation.

I am going to start with discussing certain aspects of our charts which reveal a problem in how we relate. Once we acknowledge the liability, we can then process it and heal. Many people do not understand they can work through a hard aspect. That experience brings one closer to fulfilling the higher meaning of our charts.

How the sun(man) and the moon(woman) in an individual's chart interact speaks about what is going on within that person. Often those with a relationship issue have their moon sign behind their sun. An example would be Sun in Pisces with a Moon in Aquarius.

When this occurs there will be a problem with relationships. If we use the sun sign as the first house, the moon lands in the solar twelfth house. The twelfth house is secrets and sorrows, also hidden matters. It is the house of the unconscious and subconscious. ( It also means a lot more but not relevant at this point).

Usually when a planet falls into the twelfth house, somehow the nature of how this planet impacts that person is not clear, especially to that person. For instance, mars is anger. I had a woman who had a lot of anger but did not see it. You could hear it in her voice. It manifested dealing with her husband and other people. I tried to explain it to her, and she screamed that she had no anger or hostility. Of course.

Needless to say it can be hard to tell the person in question about an unknown issue. The good news is when similar events or people keep coming to a person, then they have a better chance of seeing the issue.

When the sun is in the first, the moon is in the twelfth house or the moon sign is behind the sun sign...the person is not in contact usually with their feelings. There can be tremendous acting out. The intent of the sun action gets smacked by the hidden moon issues as well.

If a person is a woman, and she has her sun in Pisces. She is likely to choose a man who is emotional, perhaps addictive, maybe needy. Remember, as an aside the Pisces fish swims in two directions. If she is evolved or the sun and moon are well placed in the chart, she might choose a very spiritual, devoted loving man. That is not the case with a Pisces sun-Moon in Aquarius combo.

With the Moon(her) in the sign behind the Sun,in Aquarius as in the example, the woman would be intrinsically independent, be a great friend, but could not tolerate a needy or clingy man. Here is the problem. Also she might not really be conscious of her emotional nature and blame the guy for the issues. "He was so co-dependent". " I could not breath, he was so needy". "I was trying to help him, I thought he would become more independent."

In a relationship context, the man she would choose and want..would not work with her Aquarius nature. Thus, there would be an inevitable blowout, over and over.

This schism would need processing in order to get past that problem. Her attraction would not change and her needs would not either, but her tolerance and acceptance of not only the chosen man but of her self would. Thus making relating easier. She would grow. She would learn to relate within her parameters.

A similar situation sets up with the Moon in a sign and the sun in the sign behind it. Example: a Moon in Pisces and an Aquarius sun.

When the moon is in the twelfth house of a natal chart, it does cause also emotional issues to be resolved. That would be Pisces rising for instance and an Aquarius Moon. I often have seen that the people with set-ups like this refuse to process yet they badly want a relationship. Sadly they could not grasp their complete emotional nature to relate, it was never their problem.

If you are a man and have a combo as mentioned above, it would also be debilitating to relating. The woman you would choose would not work with the man you are.

If you have a set up as described and would like to post a comment, I would be pleased to discuss it with you here.

I will be doing other difficult sun and moon interactions in a chart in the next few blogs. Often an astrologer can tell the whole relationship history and possibilities just from a natal chart's two luminaries or planets.

Examples of this sun/moon combo would be..

Aries sun/ Moon in Pisces
Taurus sun/Moon in Aries
Gemini sun/Moon in Taurus
Cancer sun/Moon in Gemini
Leo sun/Moon in Cancer
Virgo sun/Moon in Leo
Libra sun/ Moon in Virgo
Scorpio sun/Moon in Libra
Sagittarius sun/Moon in Scorpio
Capricorn sun/Moon in Sagittarius
Aquarius sun/ Moon in Capricorn
Pisces sun/Moon in Aquarius