Relationships: The importance of a Jupiter tie --Part 5

THE ROLE OF JUPITER IN RELATIONSHIPS

We have discussed the following:

1. the role of the individuals Sun and Moon in defining intimacy needs.

2. the importance of the Sun and Moon dancing with our sweetie's Sun and Moon.

3. the role of Mars and Venus

4. Saturn ties

5. Solstice ties as hooks.

6. love of the life progression

If you have not read the blogs containing this information, just scroll past Eclipse Frenzy to discover the series.

Today I am going to discuss the importance of a Jupiter connection.

A relationship flourishes if Jupiters aspect each other. That generally means the type of "fun" you both choose will work well together. One does not want one's mate to have for instance a Jupiter in Scorpio while the other has a Jupiter in Sag,. For sure, the Jupiter in Scorpio will rain on the Jupiter in Sag parade. Look at the Jupiter placements you have had in past and present relationships. See how they fit.

If one person's Jupiter touches the others Sun, Moon, or Venus, there is a deep sense of connection that translates into the Jupiter person being protective of the other. That same Jupiter person is lucky for the other too. An innate flow of positive feelings with well aspected Jupiters makes it is easier to get over a relationship's bumps.

In a marriage, if it is going to be a "fertile" one, Jupiter needs to aspect the other's Moon. Venus and mercury could work though might not be as strong.

Last but not least, there is nothing better than Jupiters in the same sign, conjunction each other. Jupiter returns to the same sign every 12-13 years. This tie sometimes explains relationships with many years apart, different generations but both parties are very happy.

Start sharing with your Jupiter and its sign and where a sweetie's has been or is....

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ECLIPSE FRENZY: WHERE IS THE POPCORN?

Remember the movie or movies when an eclipse occurs and the primitive people of that film script think the world is ending? Sometimes when I see people upset with the knowledge but not the understanding of an eclipse, I am reminded of those scenes. The sky darkens, the winds etc.. Yes, the world is ending.

Eclipses really are no big deal unless one of your planets is hit by them and within 2 degrees. That is where it ends and begins. So pull back if you are nervous about the eclipse on July 7 or July 22. We are looking at a Lunar eclipse at 15 Capricorn (impacting 13 Cancer or Capricorn to 17 Cancer/Capricorn ) Translation: this is a Full Moon eclipse, so Full Moon energy will add to the impact of the eclipse that day, or days around it.

Eclipses tend to drain energy from people the day before and the day. Lunar eclipses, I have been told will impact you physically less if you eat food grown in the earth on the days around the eclipse. Bring on the potatoes...

Eclipses are about conjunctions and oppositions. Those planets hit in conjunction and opposition are most likely to be hit with the 2 degree range and this is a large orb. Trust me, as one who has worked with eclipses on people's chart a lot.

A lunar eclipse July 7, 2009 timing is as follows: the first week, one gets an idea of the area impacted. one month, some of the story is revealed , however the whole complete tale will not be understood or completed for 18 months. Decisions made about how this stellar will impact you if you have a close hit cannot even be made , considering the multiple interpretations possible for a sign, planet and transit. A clue as well-what looks bad rarely turns out that way in hindsight. The events as the eclipse is a Full Moon manifestation tend to be emotional, revolving around the nature of the planet hit.

A solar eclipse which will occur on July 22 impacts career, men, energy and identity. This is a conjunction eclipse. How it will impact those who have planets from the 28 Cancer/Capricorn to 2 Leo/Aquarius access will follow this timing: 1 week, 1 month, 3 months, 6 months and a year. At one week the happenings start unfurling. You get a clue at what might be going down in 1 month. It will take the whole 12 months for the story to complete.

Do eat around the Solar Eclipse foods grown in the sun, oranges etc. So those of you who do not have planets from 13 Cancer/Capricorn to 17 Cancer/Capricorn or 28 Cancer/Capricorn to 2 Leo/Aquarius can now go off and eat your popcorn (excuse me, orange). Watch, but be involved? no.

The bottom line even an astrologer unless very psychic and highly trained may not be able to zero on what will happen. As an aside, those born on New Moons and Full Moons usually will feel the energy the most if their planets are hit. Ascendants are included in eclipse hits.

Relationships/Solstice points/Part 4

I am now going into something I became aware of as a new astrologer. Solstice points for every degree of the zodiac. Each planet in your chart has a Solstice Point.

I have always been a relationship astrologer and I have seen much suffering as people try to work through painful ties, with or without the person.

I would look at the chart, turn it upside down, shake the chart,(that did not help) do a composite maybe, though that was a new technique, for the purpose of the tie ,and then still unanswered, I discovered Solstice Points. Every planet has one. Every degree has one.

Have you ever been im a relationship and could not clear, but there "seemed" to be not a strong enough astrological tie to make you, they or someone act this neurotic? We all have. Hence the Solstice Points. Look to them.

I had a girlfriend after centuries could not get out of this relationship. Years and years of story. Thinking was beginning to look at everything through the term of addictions. it was quite chic, hip thinking. I did not buy addiction to someone as an answer.... She was Libra; he was Pisces.

Then I discovered Solstice Points, The Solstice Points for Libra are always in Pisces. if there is a hit within one degree, you have a hook and eye,with two charts.

That is when I found out about the power of the Solstice Point. often more than one,in relationships. Also events can result when a planet hits any of those solstice points, making for a lot of change that might not really surface otherwise.


She was a 17 degree Sun in Libra. He was a 13 degree Sun in Pisces. That was a direct hit. What happens is you take one planet, like Venus in Pisces at 10 degrees. One knows the solstice point is in Pisces but what degree. Just subtract, the planet in question from 30, and you have the degree...so a 10 degree Pisces Venus would be........................you fill in the space. Then you have the Solstice Point.


Is anyone familiar with the system? I will give you the signs that are connected and let you figure this out. I suggest you keep a list of these points on your planets and see what happens with events and check out any relationship. Let's keep it simple and focused on just this.

Cancer-Gemini.
Leo Taurus
Virgo-Aries
Libra-Pisces
Scorpio- Aquarius
Sagittarius-Capricorn


Oh that 10 degree Venus in Pisces has its Solstice point at 20 Libra.

Relationships..the role Saturn plays..Part 3

I am going to discuss the endurance quality in a relationship. For a marriage or long term union, there needs to be a Saturn tie. I can hear all of you screaming..." SATURN"....yes, my dear astrology buffs, Saturn.

Saturn represents responsibility and endurance, which one needs for a long term commitment. It shows the ability to stand behind the feelings, nice thoughts and words. It can test your bond too, If someone gets married with Saturn transiting the marriage house, it could be close to impossible to really break the tie. I know one person who divorced anyway with a Saturn tie, but they remain honestly best friends now, and their children have grown up.

In looking at 2 charts, at least one of the person's Saturn must oppose/conjunct the others luminaries, or the ruler of the chart. It needs to be a hard hit.

Many in my generation have Saturn in Leo and I am an Aquarius. Many of the people even friends since I was six, have Saturn opposing my sun. Believe me these people can give me a lot of grief, questioning my decisions, etc. In the long run it is good and helps me.I believe my ffriends are coming from a good spot.

Another end result is the ability to listen at criticism without being defensive as I am very used to it. It just means from their perspective how they see something, not necessarily how it is. People criticize what they judge as faults or weaknesses they have within...if they did not have that sensitivity, they would never criticize or be bothered by that action, habit or whatever. In fact, listen next time without reacting to the words when some one challenges or criticizes you. They are speaking about themselves.

Trust me though next life time, I will not come back as a sign opposing my immediate contemporaries Saturn. No..No.

Take a peak at a long term bond in your life and see where each of your Saturns are...then post.

A discussion -relationships Part 2

In the first blog on relationships, I discussed the need for the sun and moon of one's chart to resonate with the other person's chart. We had examples of when they did and when they did not. Clearly forever relationships need that tie.

There was another issue that came up, to see that the intimacy needs were similar, and that also was revealed through the sun and moon within one's own chart.
For sure, if you need space and freedom, having a partner who wants to hold hands and be together all the time is a sure route to a separation.

The next . In a similar way to the Sun and Moon, there needs to be Venus and Mars involved. A Pluto touch adds intensity. So now we are at a point where we can view the sexuality.

Nothing can replace good chemistry and some relationships never lose it years into the bond. Chemistry really is the glue.

So who is willing to put up their stats with a relationships? it can even be a past one..

A discussion about relationships: part 1

Relationships, relationships and relationships are the only words I am hearing from clients. No wonder with the present mars /venus conjunction in sensual Taurus and the Venus retro earlier this year. Thinking about relating is what we are supposed to be doing.

A client asked me today: can one be free and relate?

To me who loves her freedom more than anything, I thought that was an interesting question. I answered: the possibility lies in meeting someone who has the same juggling of freedom and relating. Why? I asked With a twinkle in her eye, she gave me her new beau's birth data.

Our relationship capacity and needs are defined by the luminaries, the sun and moon, and in that definition comes the words intimacy, abuse , defensive ,open...and many more..

These traits are so locked in your natal chart,that a good astrologer can tell you the nature of the relationship you are in, what the issues are without the other party's chart. When I sometimes do that type of glance in a reading not involving the relationship or without the other party's data , the client asks: if you can do that, why do astrologers use synastry and composites? Great question. I will be dealing with that in the follow up blogs part 2, and part 3.

Compatibility is such an interesting word as its meaning varies from couple to couple , person to person and astrologer to astrologer. No one can define compatibility for anyone, unless they understand what the person being read needs , which once more goes back to the Natal Chart, and most importantly the sun and moon.

I often hear that progressions are where it is at. I can promise you one thing, if something is going to happen, it has to be in the Natal chart to become even a possibility.

The one progression I do use with relationships or someone seeking a relationship is the one that determines when and if you are going to meet the love of your life. Sadly in some charts it never occurs. This has convinced me that anyone fortunate enough to have this progression in their chart needs to be thankful, for that experience.

One client who had this progression happening, met the love of her life. She feel madly in love with him and years later the couple still coo like lovebirds..but getting there..ouch.

She and He had many relationship issue preventing intimacy. They were hell on wheels with each other for roughly 8 years.( I know. It was wild reading them during this period) Eventually they decided no longer to break up as they always went back together. Then they started to work through their issues. Now they just accept and love each other to pieces. Acceptance is true love you know, not wanting to change the person but loving them as they are.

So I ask you what would the love of your life look like?

I am sure what you would tell me would be different than what another person might say. Therefore, the importance of sun(man) and moon (woman)in the natal chart.

In how those two planets interact one can read the relationship history, and if you are in a relationship presently. Astrologers can see your intimacy needs through a complete study of the moon and sun and their interaction.The Moon is also Mom and the Sun is also Dad. In the same study, we learn the interactions of the parents, as to how the child now grownup whose chart viewed their relationship.

Yesterday a client told me how very depressed she was. Then her marriage came up where there was heavy abuse, physical and mental. (She is leaving the bond).
She discussed how her therapist asked if she was abused. She said, no never. My Dad and Mom never even spanked me.

She looked at me with a curious expression...like why? I explained to her we model off our parents' relationship. Their interaction is what we come to think of as loving. She got quiet and said. DAD slugged Mom nearly every night, until one day, I was 10, she took a frying pan...

So: her work will be learning that loving which had been the parents model was not necessarily really love as many define it or how she "mentally" want to picture love. People have a very hard time moving from being attracted to the type who can provide a mimic of the parents' bond. it can happen, and it is hard work.

This is only step one in astrology and relationships. The next post we will go over some of the techniques used by astrologers.. and why they are used. I might put in a couple of mine too.

Let's discuss the love of your life. is he here? or what would you imagine him to be? let's make this blog real to you, rather than interesting words. The first step is in sharing, "for better or for worse"....

Never and I do mean never underestimate Neptune, with a little help from his friends, Jupiter and Chiron.

Please note the date of my last blog, and please note the topic.

Wednesday, May 27, 2009
Neptune...consider the retrograde on May 28.
When I think of Neptune, I smile because of the dimension, this planet adds in our lives.


I smile? Have I lost my mind?
Little did I have a clue that I was going to get the Neptunian clobber of a life time. Perhaps, that is an exaggeration. Let's try; the strongest Neptunian hit I have every experienced.

Somehow, stupid me, felt somewhat immune to these transits at my wizen age. Neptune rarely hits me hard.. Wrong again. Astrology has a way of ringing the door bell, whenever we make those type of assumptions. It broke down my front door literally and figuratively.

By last night, I was about to contact Elsa, of Elsa, Elsa and Astro Dispatch to scream help. Elsa and I see eye to eye in areas many people, past astrologers do not. We can talk without mincing words. I didn't call rather...

In my Nepotunian haze, I poured a glass of wine, and thought: These events only have the attachment I put on them and nothing more. Neptune hits again in my thinking.

To preface what happened, and certainly i will not reveal all :> , I need to explain that I have a predominant Neptune in my chart. It is in mutual reception with my venus in my career house, lives in my Fifth House and is part of a Yod (Finger of God .translation: anything that can happen will!..forgive me-it is part of our life lessons learning how to adjust to not necessarily congruent energy).

On May 27, the day of the last blog, my world felt perfect. Between us guys that usually spells trouble.

On May 28, my site got hacked unknown to me. Neptune went retrograde.
On May 29, I started to get client emails to the effect..they could not get into my site.."what did you do?" I heard about a Trojan worm. Then the rogue site message- I kept sending them on to my webmaster, knowing full well I am a novice in this area.

That same day, I went out to several servers and put in my name..to find out...I was not only a ghost site, but also with shadow somethings...and be aware of entry, rogue ...

I am an Aquarian. The words ghost, rogue and shadow do not displease me. I like the mystical mischievous connotations....I sat there in a Neptunian haze, glossing over all this and dreamily thought: I have been called worse.

Then in a moment of lightening clarity, I thought OMG!!!! I sent what I found to my webmaster who of course is another Aquarian and cannot find out what is wrong.

May 31, in the late day, the webmaster declares: you have been hacked.

Dreamily I ask: why? Then smacked by reality, I think: why, you ask why? who cares? get it handled,. She assured me that it was handled, but remember she too is an Aquarian not seeing straight either , helped along by Neptune and his friends..

Meanwhile my personal life takes twists and turns that no one could of foreseen, and my friends, Neptune is in the sign of friendship, conjuncting Jupiter (a lot of) with chiron (healing). ..decide to more or less move in with me to protect me and make sure nothing gets more out of control in my personal life. (and believe me events there were stunning, coming in from left field)

A week later,I love them dearly, but my home is now tipsy turvy, and I am behind the ape ball with work, and when they leave late Saturday night, June 6 , I thank them profoundly for everything, explaining I have major deadlines, so please, I need to work Sunday and perhaps forever to make them.

It was a grand old time with my friends, sponsored by Neptune. The party was so good, they re-appeared, the following day, and then the following day etc. I am still one week and 2 days later, cleaning.

After I barely made my deadlines late Monday, I realized something else. I had not had email off my site since I was hacked. OH DEAR. genius here says: this is trouble.

I try to contact my server. I have been chasing them around for awhile, trying to get a bill (also Neptune here) and low and behold the Neptunian fog subsides, and they appear. Thank Goodness. I see help..

Over 12,000 html coding errors, etc,,email issues beyond the imagination....

Clients and once more friends helped. They emailed me from my site. ..if they could. but Yahoo people could not. This realization came yesterday with Jupiter going Retrograde, one of Neptune's pals.

We are still correcting. .

I have had some splashing side effects too. The funniest is when doing a search for my site in Yahoo, this past Saturday, Sunday and today you find me, but oh oh...oils for enhancement---- and items for enlarging....(use your imagination),. Pray Neptune makes that vanish. I am doing my best to help here.

Amplify that story about 4 times, and you have my life for the last 2 weeks.

Still no email..

I can be reached at JacquelineBigar@aol.com.

I will pop in a phone number on this blog Thursday after installation.

Long term, I need to rethink Neptune, how to harness its energy, and reframe much like the discussion in my blogs of the last six months about Venus, and Pluto.

At the moment, I am detaching, and reframing.
The problem lies there I suddenly becomes so neptunian....(detachment is supposedly the answer with Neptune....)

Ah, My thoughts are meaningless and I only draw what I want from these situations....our past colors our present, so we cannot now see the now....