I sometimes go around and ponder different issues, sometimes they stem from astrology, or the people I meet. Other times I really consider an issue which has come to light and then study it astrologically.
Evil is such a heavy word. I often wonder if someone can truely be evil. Aren't people simply misguided, or don't agree with your values? What determines if someone is evil? The beholder...or the creator.
Have you ever met someone who you felt was truely evil?
After much thought as I see some strange things these days, especially what people will do without money, home or food, (I am not refering to Haiti) but in this country. or what people will do without the loving and nurturing they need.
Is someone evil because of their actions?
I have come to terms for the moment, that when someone intentionally goes to hurt someone , to create pain, just for the "hell" of it, or their own pleasure...that is evil. Evil is a lack of conscience...I think. A lack of conscience the few times I have looked at a chart..often has a huge stellium in a hard or fixed sign. I am not sure that is the only mix.
I would like to continue this discussion with your help. Have you known a person who was evil? why? by any chance do you have any of their birth data? or
have you experienced evil and what did it looked like? I would love it if you attached any astrological information too.
To your next year!
I will be writing more in the next few days about the New Year trends, though I will go across the signs, and discuss the transits in a more mundane fashion. Below is simply the very brief copy for the newspapers about your 2010. Remember to read at least your sun, moon and rising sign.
Nothing replaces a full reading from an astrologer, who has a perspective on your situation. Please note the star count. 5 is the best. 4 is great. 3 is most definitely okay. Under that listen to the message carefully.
ARIES (March 21-April 19) ****
You romp into 2010 with your ruling planet dancing backward. Impulsiveness is associated with the Ram, but for the first two months of 2010, try to curb this spontaneity. Use special care right now too, especially with a child or loved one. In many ways, from May through September, you will experience more excitement and change than imaginable. For bold, assertive Aries, this will be easier if you just goes with the flow. Motto of the Year: Stay in the present.
TAURUS (April 20-May 20) ****
Events occur that open you up to change and possibilities. Often you might be in a semi-state of shock as you evaluate what is happening. The biggest mistake you can make this year is to hold on to the status quo. The best part of your year is that you are letting go of old ideas. You are building a new type of stability based on walking past filtered thinking. Travel and foreigners could be quite lucky for you. Do not get involved with professional or personal acquaintances too quickly. Motto of the Year: Time is your ally.
GEMINI (May 21-June 20) ***
Deal with financial partnerships with greater openness and awareness. Taking a class in this field could be smart. It is easy to pull the wool over someone’s eyes when he or she doesn’t have a grasp on the basics. The unexpected runs riot all year, even more so than usual. A boss could be quirky and difficult in the spring, and you encounter very unusual people in the summer. An opportunity flies in from left field. Be ready to grasp it quickly, as it might not return again. Be careful with your words, and do not say something you’ll cannot take back. Motto of the Year: Learn to appreciate life’s curveballs.
CANCER (June 21-July 22) ***
oon Children could feel as if they have a lot of people demanding something of them. You are in a process of renegotiating your boundaries, as people seem to cross those barriers. Many of you will hit major confrontations, power plays and control games. Summer 2010 reminds you to take nothing for granted, as anything can happen. The wild-card planet sends surprises as it sits on the very top of your chart. Motto of the Year: Prevent stress from building by incorporating exercise into your days.
LEO (July 23-Aug. 22)****
You roar into 2010 a force to behold. The first quarter of the year produces unusual energy. You could have a nasty temper during this time. You don’t really want to scare people; you simply want to let others know you have boundaries. As spring blooms, look around — yours will be one of the few stable signs in the zodiac. It is important for the Lion to be on top of finances and communications. Motto of the Year: Accept an innate eccentricity.
VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22) **** Finally, times are a little easier, though your checkbook could sing the blues. Change your budget to suit the new you, who has emerged from years of forced responsibility. Your values have changed, and your budget needs to reflect this. Relationships are far from boring. If attached by summer, you could feel as if you are on the roller-coaster ride of your life. If single, a wariness emerges when dealing with others on a close one-on-one level. With this acknowledgment, confidence emerges, allowing many new options. Motto of the Year: Walk away from what doesn’t work.
LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 22) ****
Accept responsibility graciously. You might feel fatigue on some level. Learn better diet and exercise patterns, and you will relieve stress and have more energy. Whatever is tossed on your plate will positively challenge you. Look at some of your views and thinking. Could they be stagnant? A relationship or several different people in your life demonstrate the possibility that your thinking is rigid and staid. If single, many options could jump into your life. Your life will be taking a lot of interesting twists in the next year. Motto of the Year: Do not fight the inevitable
.
SCORPIO (Oct. 23-Nov. 21) ****
Certainly, you are learning a new style of communication. Your movements and expression reveal more centering. One of life’s lessons that whirls through your life will be the power of understanding. Artists of all types could be subject to unusual creativity. Children could be a handful, reminding you of your wild days. Many of you will have surprise additions to your family or, if single, one very exciting love relationship or a sequence of several intriguing potential lovers. Count on one exciting year. Motto of the Year: Prepare to blaze a new trail.
SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21) *****
You are a force to behold this year, with a stronger tie to home and family. Whether single or attached, you have options. You could remodel your home, paint a room or move. Interactions with families and roommates have a newfound depth and sense of well-being. Come summer, you will encounter one of the hottest, most romantic periods of your life. Enjoy every moment this exciting individual spends in your life. Count on nothing being long-term until it really is. Motto of the Year: Live it up — you only go around once.
CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19) ***
Goats get better as they age. You are a sign associated with career, work and commitment, which is exactly where you need to focus. You are on familiar ground, yet shattering insights could infiltrate your view of your personal world. Your willingness to strive to excellence professionally could be in conflict with how you are viewing your world. With these changes, doors open up that you never even knew existed. Motto of the Year: Accept that there are forces stronger than you.
AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18)****
After the year you just experienced, you might wonder if you have the energy to meet another dynamic period. As 2010 enters, partners, associates, friends and loved ones seem to be on the warpath. Spring enters, and you can breathe. People return to normal, but there is a change, and it comes from you. Finances have been an unpredictable roller-coaster ride. Plans will easily dissolve but are replaced often by adventure. New people and new ideas become a given. Motto of the Year: Go with the flow.
PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20)***
Others have mentioned that you have become a highly volatile, transformational figure in their lives. Truth be told, this is not your intent. Partners, friends and people in general lighten up in 2010. Hold on to your wallet during Summer 2010. Unexpected lightning bolts hit your finances. The caliber of your friendships changes. Your goals will change, and there is a newfound intensity about living. Keep checking in with yourself so that you are in contact with your authentic desires. You are entering perhaps one of the most exciting periods of your life. Motto of the Year: You can only go forward, not backward.
Jacqueline Bigar is on the Internet at http://www.jacquelinebigar.com.
© 2009 by King Features Syndicate Inc.
Nothing replaces a full reading from an astrologer, who has a perspective on your situation. Please note the star count. 5 is the best. 4 is great. 3 is most definitely okay. Under that listen to the message carefully.
ARIES (March 21-April 19) ****
You romp into 2010 with your ruling planet dancing backward. Impulsiveness is associated with the Ram, but for the first two months of 2010, try to curb this spontaneity. Use special care right now too, especially with a child or loved one. In many ways, from May through September, you will experience more excitement and change than imaginable. For bold, assertive Aries, this will be easier if you just goes with the flow. Motto of the Year: Stay in the present.
TAURUS (April 20-May 20) ****
Events occur that open you up to change and possibilities. Often you might be in a semi-state of shock as you evaluate what is happening. The biggest mistake you can make this year is to hold on to the status quo. The best part of your year is that you are letting go of old ideas. You are building a new type of stability based on walking past filtered thinking. Travel and foreigners could be quite lucky for you. Do not get involved with professional or personal acquaintances too quickly. Motto of the Year: Time is your ally.
GEMINI (May 21-June 20) ***
Deal with financial partnerships with greater openness and awareness. Taking a class in this field could be smart. It is easy to pull the wool over someone’s eyes when he or she doesn’t have a grasp on the basics. The unexpected runs riot all year, even more so than usual. A boss could be quirky and difficult in the spring, and you encounter very unusual people in the summer. An opportunity flies in from left field. Be ready to grasp it quickly, as it might not return again. Be careful with your words, and do not say something you’ll cannot take back. Motto of the Year: Learn to appreciate life’s curveballs.
CANCER (June 21-July 22) ***
oon Children could feel as if they have a lot of people demanding something of them. You are in a process of renegotiating your boundaries, as people seem to cross those barriers. Many of you will hit major confrontations, power plays and control games. Summer 2010 reminds you to take nothing for granted, as anything can happen. The wild-card planet sends surprises as it sits on the very top of your chart. Motto of the Year: Prevent stress from building by incorporating exercise into your days.
LEO (July 23-Aug. 22)****
You roar into 2010 a force to behold. The first quarter of the year produces unusual energy. You could have a nasty temper during this time. You don’t really want to scare people; you simply want to let others know you have boundaries. As spring blooms, look around — yours will be one of the few stable signs in the zodiac. It is important for the Lion to be on top of finances and communications. Motto of the Year: Accept an innate eccentricity.
VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22) **** Finally, times are a little easier, though your checkbook could sing the blues. Change your budget to suit the new you, who has emerged from years of forced responsibility. Your values have changed, and your budget needs to reflect this. Relationships are far from boring. If attached by summer, you could feel as if you are on the roller-coaster ride of your life. If single, a wariness emerges when dealing with others on a close one-on-one level. With this acknowledgment, confidence emerges, allowing many new options. Motto of the Year: Walk away from what doesn’t work.
LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 22) ****
Accept responsibility graciously. You might feel fatigue on some level. Learn better diet and exercise patterns, and you will relieve stress and have more energy. Whatever is tossed on your plate will positively challenge you. Look at some of your views and thinking. Could they be stagnant? A relationship or several different people in your life demonstrate the possibility that your thinking is rigid and staid. If single, many options could jump into your life. Your life will be taking a lot of interesting twists in the next year. Motto of the Year: Do not fight the inevitable
.
SCORPIO (Oct. 23-Nov. 21) ****
Certainly, you are learning a new style of communication. Your movements and expression reveal more centering. One of life’s lessons that whirls through your life will be the power of understanding. Artists of all types could be subject to unusual creativity. Children could be a handful, reminding you of your wild days. Many of you will have surprise additions to your family or, if single, one very exciting love relationship or a sequence of several intriguing potential lovers. Count on one exciting year. Motto of the Year: Prepare to blaze a new trail.
SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21) *****
You are a force to behold this year, with a stronger tie to home and family. Whether single or attached, you have options. You could remodel your home, paint a room or move. Interactions with families and roommates have a newfound depth and sense of well-being. Come summer, you will encounter one of the hottest, most romantic periods of your life. Enjoy every moment this exciting individual spends in your life. Count on nothing being long-term until it really is. Motto of the Year: Live it up — you only go around once.
CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19) ***
Goats get better as they age. You are a sign associated with career, work and commitment, which is exactly where you need to focus. You are on familiar ground, yet shattering insights could infiltrate your view of your personal world. Your willingness to strive to excellence professionally could be in conflict with how you are viewing your world. With these changes, doors open up that you never even knew existed. Motto of the Year: Accept that there are forces stronger than you.
AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18)****
After the year you just experienced, you might wonder if you have the energy to meet another dynamic period. As 2010 enters, partners, associates, friends and loved ones seem to be on the warpath. Spring enters, and you can breathe. People return to normal, but there is a change, and it comes from you. Finances have been an unpredictable roller-coaster ride. Plans will easily dissolve but are replaced often by adventure. New people and new ideas become a given. Motto of the Year: Go with the flow.
PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20)***
Others have mentioned that you have become a highly volatile, transformational figure in their lives. Truth be told, this is not your intent. Partners, friends and people in general lighten up in 2010. Hold on to your wallet during Summer 2010. Unexpected lightning bolts hit your finances. The caliber of your friendships changes. Your goals will change, and there is a newfound intensity about living. Keep checking in with yourself so that you are in contact with your authentic desires. You are entering perhaps one of the most exciting periods of your life. Motto of the Year: You can only go forward, not backward.
Jacqueline Bigar is on the Internet at http://www.jacquelinebigar.com.
© 2009 by King Features Syndicate Inc.
Uranus direct reminds us of the Uranus Saturn opposition again
Probably a more full body of information has been written on the Uranus/Saturn opposition than ever before, thanks to blogs and the Internet. More thought has been given to this powerful opposition than in the past. Part of this literature created around the planetary powers opposing each other is also a direct reflection of the manifestations of the opposition.
Uranus has made the walls tumble of traditional communications, opening a brand new world for me, for you, for all of us out there. You can barely keep a secret today, in this brave new world.
Uranus going direct in everyone of our charts will have implications. There is no way around it. If we choose to feel its energy is a different issue. One can be sure you will know someone who will be squarely hit on the kisser, excuse the expression thus affecting you. If you see a friend go off the deep end, you just might think, oh oh, Uranus struck. Of course you cannot be sure unless you are an astrologer and can read the chart..Understand the opposition will test the status quo.
Uranus wherever it is has a way of making nerves raw, of teaching what we expect is not what we will get, and our true openness is tested.
So as you look for what this planet in opposition to Saturn will do to your chart. Think about the fact, that these planetary powers are battling not only in your chart, but also every one's chart you know, though because of where the planets are in each person's chart, with the individuality of each chart, the war waged between these two planets...will be different in each case.
As Jim Morrison wrote, during this same opposition 40 years plus ago: people are strange. Yes. They are strange. Look around- people are strange, very strange. Have empathy, knowing the battle waged is tough.
On a bigger level countries- the world, the planet are experiencing the same war. Look at the issues facing the planet....our country, the world...we can clearly see Uranus announcing-it is not working, (insight), and revolutionary solution maybe...while Saturn says : oh, no we like it like this , Please do not challenge us to change.
With this said, I hope you will let go of your pictures, and open up to the Brave New World unfolding, with new ideas, with new fundamentals, and probably a lot more implications than I or you can imagine. Times are exciting
Just for info: Uranus is in late Pisces forming a loose opposition to Saturn in Aries, It will becoming more and more exact this Spring (April 26) to pull apart again to the final time, in this astrologer's lifetime in July 26, 2010. The opposition will repeat again in another 40 plus years.
We cannot speculate the implications anymore than the hippies could of stunning assassinations, racial equality, free love and liberating the spirit. Sometimes we cannot see that far as good as the prophets may be.
Uranus has made the walls tumble of traditional communications, opening a brand new world for me, for you, for all of us out there. You can barely keep a secret today, in this brave new world.
Uranus going direct in everyone of our charts will have implications. There is no way around it. If we choose to feel its energy is a different issue. One can be sure you will know someone who will be squarely hit on the kisser, excuse the expression thus affecting you. If you see a friend go off the deep end, you just might think, oh oh, Uranus struck. Of course you cannot be sure unless you are an astrologer and can read the chart..Understand the opposition will test the status quo.
Uranus wherever it is has a way of making nerves raw, of teaching what we expect is not what we will get, and our true openness is tested.
So as you look for what this planet in opposition to Saturn will do to your chart. Think about the fact, that these planetary powers are battling not only in your chart, but also every one's chart you know, though because of where the planets are in each person's chart, with the individuality of each chart, the war waged between these two planets...will be different in each case.
As Jim Morrison wrote, during this same opposition 40 years plus ago: people are strange. Yes. They are strange. Look around- people are strange, very strange. Have empathy, knowing the battle waged is tough.
On a bigger level countries- the world, the planet are experiencing the same war. Look at the issues facing the planet....our country, the world...we can clearly see Uranus announcing-it is not working, (insight), and revolutionary solution maybe...while Saturn says : oh, no we like it like this , Please do not challenge us to change.
With this said, I hope you will let go of your pictures, and open up to the Brave New World unfolding, with new ideas, with new fundamentals, and probably a lot more implications than I or you can imagine. Times are exciting
Just for info: Uranus is in late Pisces forming a loose opposition to Saturn in Aries, It will becoming more and more exact this Spring (April 26) to pull apart again to the final time, in this astrologer's lifetime in July 26, 2010. The opposition will repeat again in another 40 plus years.
We cannot speculate the implications anymore than the hippies could of stunning assassinations, racial equality, free love and liberating the spirit. Sometimes we cannot see that far as good as the prophets may be.
Thinking of Saturn
Saturn often gets a bad rap, and more often than not lately, I feel I am the sole defender of the planet of responsibility and maturity.
I have two clients- one is quite knowledgeable in astrology but always is blaming everything on Saturn. So much so she has changed her rising degree. She is sure Saturn is in a certain house. and to get it there, she must change her birthtime! ( Can I tell you how many times she has changes her birthtime on me?) The other person who claims knowledge of astrology, blames events early this year on a Saturn Return. Truth be told Saturn was nowhere in the vicinity- it was off on another crusade.Her problems were caused by the Venus Retro. ( See why it always is good to see a professional rather than do your own chart?)
Saturn is the teacher planet, and it is also represents maturity. It does not come out with a whip and chain, dressed in plutonian S and M gear. It simply points to gaps in our lives which we need to shore up. IT defines cycles.
Guess what? Saturn can be an excellent transit.
Saturn also can reap rewards on those who have worked hard and have lived their lives in sync with who they are.
One associate on her first Saturn return won an Oscar. Saturn was saying: go for it. you are on the right path. A school friend of mine got an enormous promotion and pay raise when Saturn pulled into his tenth house. He had to work his tail off, but it was clear, he was the right person for the job. Many years later, he commands even more power and money for the same excellence. His best promotions come with Saturn.
Great long term love affairs and marriages generally have a Saturn conjunction or opposition between the two. Saturn is the cement here, testing the person who has a planet involved with the others' Saturn. Their values or whatever characteristics referred to by the planet and sign get tested and evaluated by both parties. Saturn can bring wonderful experiences to those on the path to their twilight years (50 and above). Saturn represents maturity.
On Oct, 29, Saturn will leave Virgo to enter Libra.
It will also have another visitation of Virgo late Spring and Summer 2010. Often when a powerful planet leaves a sign, it gives a royal kick to those who have not yet received its message when it was in the sign it was leaving. I would not be surprised that someone gets a strong hit this week, but most likely it will be the 2010 trip into Virgo which will remind someone they still do not "get it". At that point , it will have nothing to do with the degree, but whether a planet at any point in the transit of Saturn in Virgo was touched. Be honest with yourself? Did you hear and act on Saturn in Virgo's message?
I am sure much is being written about Saturn in Libra. Remember you need to have planets involved to really feel this transit.
It is important to understand you cannot interpret this transit, nor can you accept generalizations. Find an astrologer, who can evaluate the importance of Saturn in your life, where it most effects you and why. This same astrologer will also correlate this new Saturn transit and what it will mean to YOU! and only you.
It could mean nothing. it is only a planet , and one of responsibility. Stay in touch with your energies and act responsibility...you just might love what it brings. Promise.
I have two clients- one is quite knowledgeable in astrology but always is blaming everything on Saturn. So much so she has changed her rising degree. She is sure Saturn is in a certain house. and to get it there, she must change her birthtime! ( Can I tell you how many times she has changes her birthtime on me?) The other person who claims knowledge of astrology, blames events early this year on a Saturn Return. Truth be told Saturn was nowhere in the vicinity- it was off on another crusade.Her problems were caused by the Venus Retro. ( See why it always is good to see a professional rather than do your own chart?)
Saturn is the teacher planet, and it is also represents maturity. It does not come out with a whip and chain, dressed in plutonian S and M gear. It simply points to gaps in our lives which we need to shore up. IT defines cycles.
Guess what? Saturn can be an excellent transit.
Saturn also can reap rewards on those who have worked hard and have lived their lives in sync with who they are.
One associate on her first Saturn return won an Oscar. Saturn was saying: go for it. you are on the right path. A school friend of mine got an enormous promotion and pay raise when Saturn pulled into his tenth house. He had to work his tail off, but it was clear, he was the right person for the job. Many years later, he commands even more power and money for the same excellence. His best promotions come with Saturn.
Great long term love affairs and marriages generally have a Saturn conjunction or opposition between the two. Saturn is the cement here, testing the person who has a planet involved with the others' Saturn. Their values or whatever characteristics referred to by the planet and sign get tested and evaluated by both parties. Saturn can bring wonderful experiences to those on the path to their twilight years (50 and above). Saturn represents maturity.
On Oct, 29, Saturn will leave Virgo to enter Libra.
It will also have another visitation of Virgo late Spring and Summer 2010. Often when a powerful planet leaves a sign, it gives a royal kick to those who have not yet received its message when it was in the sign it was leaving. I would not be surprised that someone gets a strong hit this week, but most likely it will be the 2010 trip into Virgo which will remind someone they still do not "get it". At that point , it will have nothing to do with the degree, but whether a planet at any point in the transit of Saturn in Virgo was touched. Be honest with yourself? Did you hear and act on Saturn in Virgo's message?
I am sure much is being written about Saturn in Libra. Remember you need to have planets involved to really feel this transit.
It is important to understand you cannot interpret this transit, nor can you accept generalizations. Find an astrologer, who can evaluate the importance of Saturn in your life, where it most effects you and why. This same astrologer will also correlate this new Saturn transit and what it will mean to YOU! and only you.
It could mean nothing. it is only a planet , and one of responsibility. Stay in touch with your energies and act responsibility...you just might love what it brings. Promise.
Broken Heart Alley
How many of you have had a broken heart?
As an astrologer, there is not a day that goes by that I don't deal with a broken heart. I have a whole arsenal of sometimes meaningful statements, but the issue of what works best presents itself. Is it better to indulge the person in their upset(especially) if you see the person is coming back or it is really is not a break up? Or am I better going with the philosophical approach which often can be hard to grasp. And there is always the replacement theory.
I function at a breakup as a pure astrologer, just saying what I see. One rarely sees a clear, clean breakup. By the way Mercury RX breakups do not hold unless you met on a Mercury RX. In this case, I tell the client with a mercury Rx breakup when the other party will call etc. The first time it happens, they don't believe me. They hope. The second time it might happen to the same person, they believe.
At times, if the relationship is simply tense and not broken, I try to open the party to understand the other, and lose judgment. It is judgments and expectations that kill our happiness you know.
Boys are different than girls from day 1. Where does that come from? I am sure part of it are those pesty little chromosomes x and y. Yet the difference is enforced from day 1.
Think, did you recently see a little girl fall and hurt herself? What did the mother or father do? My guess: is poor baby, let me kiss it and make it better...
Think again, when did you last see a little buy fall? What did the mother or father do? My guess some variation on the theme of... Come on champ, it didn't hurt that bad, you will be okay, as they dust off the child and set him back on his feet.
Do you see the difference? what do you think those differences are? what do you think the implications of those differences are?
The little girl is told ..it is okay to feel and cry. And someone will come to your rescue. I am sure that evolves to the Knight in White Shining Armor scenario.
The little Boy is being told, do not feel your feelings, you are stronger than that. So he is given a very early primitive message of do not feel.
The little girl is living in fantasy land as a woman with false expectations of being indulged, loved and/or saved and is so disappointed by the man who won't share his feelings. The man is doing what he thinks is right.
How many of you recognize this scenario? A woman trying to literally ply a man open...rather than accepting him and vica versa. He thinks: she is so emotional, she must be at that time of month, I think I will vanish, Such drama! She thinks: he doesn;'t care. He is not sharing all those emotional, gooey feelings I feel. And he vanished. He deserted me (more like wanted to protect himself).He probably does not even know about gooey feelings exist, he is so defended.
I would say 80% if not more breakups occur because of lack of understanding about the other party. The classic response: that behavior is unacceptable to me.
This was a woman client after 8 months broke up with a guy because he would not say I love you. Had she understood that it really was honoring who he was by not expressing those feelings,yet he told her he could see a life with her..... plus when he said those magical words, he would ultimately really mean it...
This brings me to another point. There are certain realities that if everyone understood, there could be less suffering..
Of course we have the Anna Karenina or Heathcliff type- (usually strong water sign presence but not always)as I call it where the person is into the Romantic Novel drama, of she will throw herself on the train track, to show her love, then he will know.
Are you Anna Karenina-thriving on the drama?) Most Anna Karenina-male or female- types will say they hurt, they feel pain, they do not want this, but this is what they choose time and time again. This is how they see love and this is the image they feed on a Gothic level. It takes sometimes people years to understand they choose this and thus they can unchoose it.
For instance, did you know you really do not know someone for a full solar year? Why do you think the first anniversary is so important? Everything before that point is infatuation and not reality based. If you are lucky maybe your infatuation becomes a reality, but that is unlikely. How many times have you heard: she was not like that at first,. She would etc etc. Remember that first year is show and tell. Period. Even if this is unconscious, we do put our best foot forward when we get to know someone.
Astrologically this psychological fact works.
Think about it. You meet someone March 1. ..but you do not know that person's best friend commit suicide on Thanksgiving 21 years before, your favorite Holiday. This person doesn't discuss this event with you, for many reasons, or perhaps they do not think about IT anymore. Yet come November 1, this person becomes dark, stormy, pushing you away and that continues all month, getting worse and worse until Turkey Day...and it doesn't clear until Dec, 1. How many of you have had similar scenarios the first year?
It might take quite a few cycles to discover this has nothing to do with you, but them. Often there are more than one date that is painful in some one's history. Thus, you have to go through A complete cycle with someone.
Loving is accepting the fact that a person can and will get dark in November. if the relationship continues despite it all then after a few years, the other person might say: are you aware every November you become dark, withholding etc, or is it me and my perspective? (did you know your brother stole your stuffed donkey on thanksgiving never to give it back when you were one, leaving a sense of being threatened at Thanksgiving?). Time and caring identify these issues and help the person grow past them. This is true transformation in the face of loving acceptance. That is what love can do, it can heal. Just like that.
Is this not what love is about? what is love about for you? Are you understanding of your mate? how do you handle your needs? what are your implicit demands? please share...with birth data.
As an astrologer, there is not a day that goes by that I don't deal with a broken heart. I have a whole arsenal of sometimes meaningful statements, but the issue of what works best presents itself. Is it better to indulge the person in their upset(especially) if you see the person is coming back or it is really is not a break up? Or am I better going with the philosophical approach which often can be hard to grasp. And there is always the replacement theory.
I function at a breakup as a pure astrologer, just saying what I see. One rarely sees a clear, clean breakup. By the way Mercury RX breakups do not hold unless you met on a Mercury RX. In this case, I tell the client with a mercury Rx breakup when the other party will call etc. The first time it happens, they don't believe me. They hope. The second time it might happen to the same person, they believe.
At times, if the relationship is simply tense and not broken, I try to open the party to understand the other, and lose judgment. It is judgments and expectations that kill our happiness you know.
Boys are different than girls from day 1. Where does that come from? I am sure part of it are those pesty little chromosomes x and y. Yet the difference is enforced from day 1.
Think, did you recently see a little girl fall and hurt herself? What did the mother or father do? My guess: is poor baby, let me kiss it and make it better...
Think again, when did you last see a little buy fall? What did the mother or father do? My guess some variation on the theme of... Come on champ, it didn't hurt that bad, you will be okay, as they dust off the child and set him back on his feet.
Do you see the difference? what do you think those differences are? what do you think the implications of those differences are?
The little girl is told ..it is okay to feel and cry. And someone will come to your rescue. I am sure that evolves to the Knight in White Shining Armor scenario.
The little Boy is being told, do not feel your feelings, you are stronger than that. So he is given a very early primitive message of do not feel.
The little girl is living in fantasy land as a woman with false expectations of being indulged, loved and/or saved and is so disappointed by the man who won't share his feelings. The man is doing what he thinks is right.
How many of you recognize this scenario? A woman trying to literally ply a man open...rather than accepting him and vica versa. He thinks: she is so emotional, she must be at that time of month, I think I will vanish, Such drama! She thinks: he doesn;'t care. He is not sharing all those emotional, gooey feelings I feel. And he vanished. He deserted me (more like wanted to protect himself).He probably does not even know about gooey feelings exist, he is so defended.
I would say 80% if not more breakups occur because of lack of understanding about the other party. The classic response: that behavior is unacceptable to me.
This was a woman client after 8 months broke up with a guy because he would not say I love you. Had she understood that it really was honoring who he was by not expressing those feelings,yet he told her he could see a life with her..... plus when he said those magical words, he would ultimately really mean it...
This brings me to another point. There are certain realities that if everyone understood, there could be less suffering..
Of course we have the Anna Karenina or Heathcliff type- (usually strong water sign presence but not always)as I call it where the person is into the Romantic Novel drama, of she will throw herself on the train track, to show her love, then he will know.
Are you Anna Karenina-thriving on the drama?) Most Anna Karenina-male or female- types will say they hurt, they feel pain, they do not want this, but this is what they choose time and time again. This is how they see love and this is the image they feed on a Gothic level. It takes sometimes people years to understand they choose this and thus they can unchoose it.
For instance, did you know you really do not know someone for a full solar year? Why do you think the first anniversary is so important? Everything before that point is infatuation and not reality based. If you are lucky maybe your infatuation becomes a reality, but that is unlikely. How many times have you heard: she was not like that at first,. She would etc etc. Remember that first year is show and tell. Period. Even if this is unconscious, we do put our best foot forward when we get to know someone.
Astrologically this psychological fact works.
Think about it. You meet someone March 1. ..but you do not know that person's best friend commit suicide on Thanksgiving 21 years before, your favorite Holiday. This person doesn't discuss this event with you, for many reasons, or perhaps they do not think about IT anymore. Yet come November 1, this person becomes dark, stormy, pushing you away and that continues all month, getting worse and worse until Turkey Day...and it doesn't clear until Dec, 1. How many of you have had similar scenarios the first year?
It might take quite a few cycles to discover this has nothing to do with you, but them. Often there are more than one date that is painful in some one's history. Thus, you have to go through A complete cycle with someone.
Loving is accepting the fact that a person can and will get dark in November. if the relationship continues despite it all then after a few years, the other person might say: are you aware every November you become dark, withholding etc, or is it me and my perspective? (did you know your brother stole your stuffed donkey on thanksgiving never to give it back when you were one, leaving a sense of being threatened at Thanksgiving?). Time and caring identify these issues and help the person grow past them. This is true transformation in the face of loving acceptance. That is what love can do, it can heal. Just like that.
Is this not what love is about? what is love about for you? Are you understanding of your mate? how do you handle your needs? what are your implicit demands? please share...with birth data.
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Dear Blog,
I have been edgy about you, especially about not attending to you. It is not that I do not love writing and sharing with all the people who read you, it is I am so overwhelmed.
Apparently we triggered a change in my practice Not only when we did the relationships series but also when I said in the last blog: I think what stops clear, open, caring communications are 1)judgment, 2)fear and/or 3)guilt. That thought brought the kind of client I love to work with. Ones that want to use their chart to illuminate their life issues from the past in order to live their present life more fully. That is the message of the doors on my website...www.jacquelineBigar.com. Have you seen it? We walk through the present door and use the past (door number 1) to illuminate the future (door number 3). Do you see the stars in three and the path?
I have been overwhelmed by the work as well as delighted. I am loving working with these sensitive caring people, who are so responsive. One said this morning:
Jacquie, I'd like to write about something else. I have been using my responses to you like journaling- meaning I have been interested in culling my current truths and exposing them to myself and you.So from the beginning I have tried to expose myself- so some of the things I write have not been comfortable to admit- but I figured why do this if I wasn't going to be as honest as I could be. I am glad of this as you have cut through more of my concerns in less time than if I'd spent a month or more seeing a therapist.
To write my blog, I have to feel that I must write and about a certain topic. I have had this compulsion often in the last month, fatigue getting the best of me. I apologize to all of you. I can say with certainty how I feel about astrology: Astrology for me is not a game where I make up rising signs or tell people what they want to hear. It is about using astrology effectively to empower the person to achieve their goals in this lifetime. Sure the process is not easy. But you will have nothing if you do not risk and illuminate issues to their fullest. Only then you can go forward
I miss you all, and hopefully I can be more fluent as I too went through a profound transformation in lifestyle, thought and clients this last month.
Jacqueline
I have been edgy about you, especially about not attending to you. It is not that I do not love writing and sharing with all the people who read you, it is I am so overwhelmed.
Apparently we triggered a change in my practice Not only when we did the relationships series but also when I said in the last blog: I think what stops clear, open, caring communications are 1)judgment, 2)fear and/or 3)guilt. That thought brought the kind of client I love to work with. Ones that want to use their chart to illuminate their life issues from the past in order to live their present life more fully. That is the message of the doors on my website...www.jacquelineBigar.com. Have you seen it? We walk through the present door and use the past (door number 1) to illuminate the future (door number 3). Do you see the stars in three and the path?
I have been overwhelmed by the work as well as delighted. I am loving working with these sensitive caring people, who are so responsive. One said this morning:
Jacquie, I'd like to write about something else. I have been using my responses to you like journaling- meaning I have been interested in culling my current truths and exposing them to myself and you.So from the beginning I have tried to expose myself- so some of the things I write have not been comfortable to admit- but I figured why do this if I wasn't going to be as honest as I could be. I am glad of this as you have cut through more of my concerns in less time than if I'd spent a month or more seeing a therapist.
To write my blog, I have to feel that I must write and about a certain topic. I have had this compulsion often in the last month, fatigue getting the best of me. I apologize to all of you. I can say with certainty how I feel about astrology: Astrology for me is not a game where I make up rising signs or tell people what they want to hear. It is about using astrology effectively to empower the person to achieve their goals in this lifetime. Sure the process is not easy. But you will have nothing if you do not risk and illuminate issues to their fullest. Only then you can go forward
I miss you all, and hopefully I can be more fluent as I too went through a profound transformation in lifestyle, thought and clients this last month.
Jacqueline
Part 8: relationship series: communications
I have waited awhile before addressing Mercury , the ruler of communications and its impact on relationships, all relationships in fact. I wanted to do some processing.
The Sun moves into the sign Virgo on August 22 a sign ruled by Mercury and in three weeks we go into a Mercury Retrograde. I can think of no more appropriate time to address this matter, especially as Mercury has a few days ago touched the degree it will retro to. I would suggest for me, I will be deeply evaluating some of the ideas I am putting forward, a couple here now, some later.
Clearly as an astrologer , I would say one person's Mercury must be in harmony with their partner's mercury. In love relationships, marriages, we always hear of the importance of communications.....
So: if you have a fire sign Mercury, your choice for excellent communications would be a fire or air sign. The same for an air sign Mercury...you would opt for an air or fire sign. Earth mMrcury would need an earth or water Mercury. Same for a water Mercury, it would need an earth or water Mercury.
Go check a friend's chart that you can brainstorm with or share openly ..where is their Mercury, where is yours? See if you have a pattern there. look at other friends' charts.
In the one realm I feel one can slide a bit with odd communications is in love relationships, Two lovers have so many other means of expressing themselves besides words, that look, or shrug. A touch or a hug. Most of us cannot behave like that with most people in our world. We have only words.
I think what stops clear, open, caring communications are 1)judgment, 2)fear and/or 3)guilt. You can shuffle these three anyway you want and cut them anyway you want. Somehow they are tied in, perhaps not altogether but at least one when you do not share, when you do not address the total situation. Think of all those times.
Ask yourself is there a judgment on your part here? fear? or guilt? You will see what I mean.
What has become clear to me is our ability to relate is directly reflective of our ability to relate to ourselves, how well we know ourselves. Also another important issue is whether we have made peace with ourselves and accepted ourselves. If one has done that, relating to another person becomes much easier.
I am going to end here but I probably will continue on a second blog on this. Let me know how you feel and think.
The Sun moves into the sign Virgo on August 22 a sign ruled by Mercury and in three weeks we go into a Mercury Retrograde. I can think of no more appropriate time to address this matter, especially as Mercury has a few days ago touched the degree it will retro to. I would suggest for me, I will be deeply evaluating some of the ideas I am putting forward, a couple here now, some later.
Clearly as an astrologer , I would say one person's Mercury must be in harmony with their partner's mercury. In love relationships, marriages, we always hear of the importance of communications.....
So: if you have a fire sign Mercury, your choice for excellent communications would be a fire or air sign. The same for an air sign Mercury...you would opt for an air or fire sign. Earth mMrcury would need an earth or water Mercury. Same for a water Mercury, it would need an earth or water Mercury.
Go check a friend's chart that you can brainstorm with or share openly ..where is their Mercury, where is yours? See if you have a pattern there. look at other friends' charts.
In the one realm I feel one can slide a bit with odd communications is in love relationships, Two lovers have so many other means of expressing themselves besides words, that look, or shrug. A touch or a hug. Most of us cannot behave like that with most people in our world. We have only words.
I think what stops clear, open, caring communications are 1)judgment, 2)fear and/or 3)guilt. You can shuffle these three anyway you want and cut them anyway you want. Somehow they are tied in, perhaps not altogether but at least one when you do not share, when you do not address the total situation. Think of all those times.
Ask yourself is there a judgment on your part here? fear? or guilt? You will see what I mean.
What has become clear to me is our ability to relate is directly reflective of our ability to relate to ourselves, how well we know ourselves. Also another important issue is whether we have made peace with ourselves and accepted ourselves. If one has done that, relating to another person becomes much easier.
I am going to end here but I probably will continue on a second blog on this. Let me know how you feel and think.
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